(This picture wouldn't have happened if I didn't get a divorce)
I'm very much into a universal picture of things. I try to pull back and see the bigger scene. Because of life experiences and past history counseling people with anxiety disorders, I've learned a lot about life; if it were on a scope, it'd look kind of like this -
Good things, bad things, mediocre things happen every day, every week, every month, every year, every decade in a fluctuating chaos. Still, people kick and scream against something that is part of nature, like the sun rising or rain falling.
Do you really want your life to be a flat line?
Bad things beget good things. Good things beget bad things.We never catapult into a chain of events without having something rather significant happen to us, usually something bad that spurs us on. We can actually give thanks to the fact that in our lifetimes, at some point we lose loved ones, we lose jobs, we get sick or divorced. As crazy as that sounds, they force us to live up to our potential by how we handle such things. Just look at the Biggest Losers--they had to get to a bad place to make a change that was so significant and 180 degrees. What about someone like John Walsh from America's Most Wanted? The loss of a son made him hunger for justice.
We generally do not turn 180 degrees away from "mediocre," but we do with "miserable."
Next time something unbearable happens, remember that it will change you forever and it doesn't have to be a scar, it can be a catalyst to figure out what's important, where your priorities are, to get new skills or to focus on what you do have and what you can control.
What did my divorce have to do with the picture above? If I had stayed in my marriage, I never ever would have submitted manuscripts and gotten published. I wouldn't have had some of the best times of my entire life if I hadn't left that miserable situation. And, there would be no concept for "Zombie Housewives of the Apocalypse" if not inspired by my decades of lifeless numb living.