Thursday, May 31, 2012

Life is a Chain of Events

(This picture wouldn't have happened if I didn't get a divorce)

I'm very much into a universal picture of things. I try to pull back and see the bigger scene. Because of life experiences and past history counseling people with anxiety disorders, I've learned a lot about life; if it were on a scope, it'd look kind of like this -

Good things, bad things, mediocre things happen every day, every week, every month, every year, every decade in a fluctuating chaos. Still, people kick and scream against something that is part of nature, like the sun rising or rain falling.

Do you really want your life to be a flat line?

Bad things beget good things. Good things beget bad things.We never catapult into a chain of events without having something rather significant happen to us, usually something bad that spurs us on. We can actually give thanks to the fact that in our lifetimes, at some point we lose loved ones, we lose jobs, we get sick or divorced. As crazy as that sounds, they force us to live up to our potential by how we handle such things. Just look at the Biggest Losers--they had to get to a bad place to make a change that was so significant and 180 degrees. What about someone like John Walsh from America's Most Wanted? The loss of a son made him hunger for justice.

We generally do not turn 180 degrees away from "mediocre," but we do with "miserable." 

Next time something unbearable happens, remember that it will change you forever and it doesn't have to be a scar, it can be a catalyst to figure out what's important, where your priorities are, to get new skills or to focus on what you do have and what you can control.

What did my divorce have to do with the picture above? If I had stayed in my marriage, I never ever would have submitted manuscripts and gotten published. I wouldn't have had some of the best times of my entire life if I hadn't left that miserable situation. And, there would be no concept for "Zombie Housewives of the Apocalypse" if not inspired by my decades of lifeless numb living. 


  1. Dont wanna sound like a jerk but I'm glad you got a divorce! All this awesomeness wouldn't have been accomplished.

  2. It's funny how that all works out. If I didn't get laid off from a job I didn't like, I wouldn't have started my blog and be writing books nor doing graphics for those books. I try to look for the positive from a bad situation.

  3. I'm definitely in favor of pulling back and trying to see the bigger picture. Not that I personally remember, but from what I've seen of the reactions of most infants to the experience of being born, going through that really sucks! That initial basis for comparison might help explain why most young children seem to regard the world and life as generally awesome, except of course for the other parts that really suck. Not many flat lines in childhood, and even though many of us try to flatten our lives as we "mature," the real flat lines ain't gonna happen until The Big Fat Lady in the Sky sings Her final notes for each of us.

  4. I know what you are saying. Illness made me leave catering, I now run my own gardening business and I’m a much happier and nicer person.