Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Major Personal Announcement!


I believe that everything bad has something good. I started blogging to get through my recovery from an Achilles tendon repair. I found I had a lot of knowledge and opinions about the ghost realm. Others seemed to like what I had to say and how I liked to say it. Then, in October I wrote some short stories for the Halloween season and ya'all really enjoyed them. So, I started to feel more confident about my writing, something I had stopped doing years ago. So, I submitted a short story and won the contest, went on and submitted more short stories and got them published, then started seriously working on books. I was in a miserable marriage with no emotion about it and I had been eating and gaining some weight on my thin frame. I didn't feel like myself and lost all confidence. Ya'all thought I was pretty and sweet and smart and I realized I am worth more than I am asking in my marriage. So, I decided to get a divorce and lost weight rapidly.

It's an extremely amicable divorce and we are doing this with great dignity. We started out at at 16 and 17 as friends who tried to make it romantic but it just wasn't there. We didn't think of each other "that" way and we had almost nothing at all in common from interests to viewpoints. So, we are going through the divorce process now and I am getting an apartment in my son's apartment complex nearby and happily simplifying my life.

I am finishing up the manuscript for a book "Was That a Ghost?" about how to determine if something you encountered might be of a paranormal nature. Being on my own and having an apartment will make it possible to spend more of my free time writing. I am thrilled beyond belief! If I hadn't ruptured my achilles, if I hadn't started a blog.... Well, you get the picture.

My life is just beginning now and I can honestly say, it wouldn't have happened if ya'all hadn't been so inspiring and sharing your own trials and tribulations and letting me know that I'm fine just the way I am. I love you all! This is yet another reason why the Hug-A-Blogger project is so necessary! I know I'm not the only one whose life has changed because of the blogging community. Those of you who regularly email me (a lot of you) know that we affect change in each other all the time. I'm a big believer in recycling and so I hope to keep giving back some of the support I've received.

After all, we're all in this crazy human experiment together!

37 comments:

  1. And, Autumn, if it weren't for your magnificent web logue …. why, I'd've not made the coolest adoptive kid sister, either! All the very best wishes to you for the future adventure ahead!

    Live from Apple Mountain,
    Anadæ Quenyan Effro ~ (•8-D

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  2. Thanks Bror, you are one of the originals who has stayed by me and seen my growth and confidence develop and knowing you're out there in the world believing in me has made me absorb it into my self concept. Love you so much, brother!

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  3. I'm SO glad to hear everything's working out with the divorce and all. It's great that y'all are keeping it friendly and amicable and handling it like adults.
    You already know what an inspiration you've been to me personally, at times I've felt like you're my only friend in the world. :)
    Of course you know I'll be there cheering from the sidelines as you move on to greater things!
    Love ya!
    G

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  4. Gummer,
    You're part of the friendly fan club that got me off my ass and doing what needed to be done. You inspired me. When I see potential in special people like you, I have to nag you to the end of time to live up to your potential and ask more of those around you. You need a good support team and I'm part of it!

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  5. Pangs;
    I'm actually the happiest I've ever been in adult life. It's amazing when you pull your head out of your ass, the things you see around you. Hee hee

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  6. Sounds like this is all very well thought out. I hope it stays amicable. You are talented and entertaining. Find passion in all aspects of your life and become fulfilled. Happy for you.

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  7. MM;
    Thanks. I am living up to my potential in my writing and you will see it on the blog, as well. And, as far as the personal stuff goes, I'm surrounding myself with supportive and wonderful people, like you folks on the blog, and I feel invincible.

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  8. Congratulations! I'm glad things are going better for you. I hope things keep getting brighter with every passing day.

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  9. Thanks Jessica, you are a dear. We are handling this extremely maturely and I think that's because the feelings haven't been there so long, we're rather like brother and sister. Our son appreciates this too. He says that separately we're awesome, but together we're sort of hang dog sad. Yeah, that's a sign.

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  10. It sounds like change will be a wonderful thing for you. I'm happy you sound happy! Wishing you all the best and I'm thrilled that you'll have more time to write!

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  11. Becca;
    Ya'all will benefit from that.

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  12. So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains
    And we never even know we have the key.

    Lyrics from Already Gone, peformed by the Eagles

    Barry

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  13. Gotta love the Eagles. One of my all-time favorite bands. Thanks. I love lyrics, they say it all!

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  14. Happy for you as far as divorce. All of mine worked great for me!
    Achilles tendons are tricky things I heard homeopathic remedies can treat it.

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  15. Thanks Echo. My doctor (idiot) opened me up and looked at the tendon--it was like spaghetti noodles. He hadn't seen anything like it. So, what does he do? Instead of closing me up and opting to talk to associates and research it a bit, he decides to give it a try. Permanent damage since then. I know I need to see another doc about it and file a malpractice suit, but damn I hate that it's taken this much out of my life already and the only way to try to fix it would be another surgery and I will never go through that again.

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  16. Stories like this just warm the heart. Especially hearing that it was you taking control of your live and not blaming others that makes it so special. We need more people like you :)

    To the future!

    Cheers!

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  17. Thank you Frog Queen. I am just thrilled to be in command of my own life and take credit for the victories and blame for the defeat. I'm willing to shoulder it all just to check out the parameters of my potential.

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  18. Wonderful! you are taking control of your own future...and that will guve you more strength & self-confidence every day!!

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  19. Libby-Girl;
    You know, it's crazy cause I'm usually confident in most ways, but I have never in my entire life lived on my own. This is part of what I've been pining for, the ultimate test of my potential. You are my sweet dear friend and I am so thankful we found each other here in this crazy blog universe. We are moving into apartments around the same time. We will have to share pictures of our nests with each other, dear.

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  20. Glad that the future is now looking bright for you. A talent like yours shouldn't go to waste. And now that things are on track me thinks I'll be buying your book this X-mas. Just promise you'll autograph a copy for me.

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  21. I'm glad your doing well. My parents were the same way - they handled it like adults, instead of just screaming and fighting. There's enough of that in the world right now. Anyway, happy for ya!

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  22. CB;
    Of course, you'll get a personalized autographed copy :-)

    HalloweeNut;
    We are actually more friendly now than when we were trying to play at marriage. Funny how that works. Our adult son benefits the most because he enjoys both our company and we can all be together for events and not one single issue, we're happy for each other and our futures.

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  23. I think it's time you consider touching my tail now.
    Just the tip !

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  24. Max;
    I'm totally ready, are you???

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  25. Since we finally met face to face at the Pioneer Cemetery this past January, I felt a kinship right away. I was lost for the past two years after being laid off and not finding any employment. Your beliefs in me and my talents, made it possible for me to try things I never would have the guts to do otherwise. I never thought in my wildest dreams that I could see cemeteries and abandon buildings as works of art but now I do and see it in everything especially through my camera. I also never thought I would be a part of writing and creating a book or two but here we are working on them. You have not only become one of my most trusted friends but my little sis too. Love ya Miss Autumn Forest...damnit I am weepie now.

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  26. Julie;
    It's just the combination of the two of us together that makes that kind of magic. It was in you, you just had to see it reflected in my eyes. I am in awe of your artistic talents and your huge heart, you are my big sis! Love ya!

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  27. Good for YOU!! I am so happy to see you so happy! You deserve this time! Good luck and can't wait to see some new stories this Halloween!! :)

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  28. Michelle; I'm thrilled for you and Daniel and little boo-boo-to-be! I will be planning an awesome October month! It's my season, you know!

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  29. seriously...you already know what I think!
    :)

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  30. Again, I am so glad that fate, destiny or just pure luck (pick your choice) brought us together as friends. I too am going through a lot of stuff. I will probably tell you and "the girls" all about it in more detail one day soon. I think it will be therapeutic even though I've said it to my friends here. Sometimes I just need to feel like I've done the right thing...or at least tried.

    You are awesome Sharon! One day, me you and Ju are going to have to get together and get into trouble! LOL

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  31. Cindi;
    I love you!

    Tara-Dear;
    You are my most awesome new friend ever! I can't wait until we meet up and drive the whole town nuts!

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  32. I'm glad y'all decided to keep the divorce friendly. I've been in the middle of ugly ones. Not a pretty picture. I'm happy things are better for you. Best wishes for more happiness!

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  33. Andrea;
    Thanks so much. Yes, we are actually just like we have been all these years, nothing has changed except we both can scent freedom in the air and are quite pleased.

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  34. Beautiful post ! I am so glad you're doing better. I love your blog, and glad that you ended up here.

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  35. Senorita;
    The blog only gets better with age as I approach the 3-year anniversary of doing it. It's because the followers trend me in the right direction as to what to pursue; what works, what doesn't, what they want to discuss.

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