As an investigator, I have to say, bedrooms are where the most people encounter unexplained, horrifying, unsettling things. There's many reasons that make the bedroom the most likely time to encounter something scary -
childhood fears
We can start with this simple explanation. The monster in the closet, the creeper under the bed, the dark shadowy outline of a robe hanging on the door....
A general unease in darkness is a pretty logical feeling. The less we can see what's around us, the more our minds can fill in the blanks with our biggest fears in order to keep us ready for anything. As humans, we want to stay ahead of the bad guy. Just think of the horror movies you watch and yell at the characters who are making bad decisions in an emergency?
Have you ever laid there in bed and noticed a shape in the room and the more you stare at it, the more it either takes a strange shape or looks like it moved? Did you know 61% of people fall asleep with the tv running? We single folks probably know this one well, as the sound covers up sounds outside and it feels less alone. And, 30-40% of people sleep with a light on (yes, nightlights count).
Horror movie on this subject: "Darkness Falls." This was surprisingly chilling about the tooth fairy being an evil entity that pursues in the dark.
ghost/shadow person encounters
Visitations from the dead, ghosts, and shadow people are the most often reported in the bedroom. There's many reasons why - One reason might be your unconscious state. Any visitor that doesn't want to be seen will arrive while you aren't alert.
Another reason might be your mind's cycling rate being turned off of consciousness and all the distractions that creates and in a restful and open state that makes it easier to interact.
Lots of research now is revealing the importance of the state of consciousness and how it might be involved in everything from manifesting to ESP skills.
We still don't understand how it works and how it continues on after death, but we are certain it runs on its own fluid and uninterrupted path, whether the hardware of the brain is at rest.
You may ignore interactions throughout the day as you are busy trying to meet deadlines, feed the family, drive a car., but at bedtime you lose all daily functioning high alert
Horror movie of a ghost in a bedroom: "The Legend of Hell House"
alien abduction
This is probably the scariest territory in the bedroom because alien abductors choose someone already in an unconscious state or a vulnerable state. They certainly don't want to creep up on you while you're holding an iron skillet.
That being said, there seems to be two catgories - abductees and contactees. It would seem a huge percentage of abductees have no memories, others vague ones or suspicions, and some strong souls recall it all. Painful experiments, cold examiners, and absolute terror are huge parts of this experience. For contactees, it's puzzling and sometimes even a pleasant encounter in which knowledge is downloaded and they get the sense they are chosen for specific missions. I am on of those.
In my 50s, I had the most memorable encounters, but then it helped me to look at a memory I had as a very small child. Suddenly I felt like this wasn't a quirk, it was a lifelong series of encounters. The adult encounters helped me get a sense of understanding myself and some of my quirks. I always felt oddly different, like an archivist watching humans but feeling outside of it.
As a child, I often narrated out loud what I was doing and feeling with a sense that something up in the corner of the ceiling watched and listened. Later on in life, I understood why I did that.
EMF(electromagnetic frequency)
(good thing for homeowners to have)
One of the first things I check in homes where people are having strange encounters and bad sleep in the bedroom is EMF. Studies found that occupational and 8-hour sleep time with high EMF causes poor sleep quality.
I take the meter and check things like clock radios (usually high frequency), cell phones, c-pap machines and the like. Keeping these devices back away from the head of the bed is ideal. I even suggest a faraday bag for the cell phone at night to keep signals from it.
Go around your work desk and your home to see what baseline readings are and keep distance from these items. You can also learn if there might be electrical issues in the home, as well. We are bombarded with enough signals as it is, try and decrease your time around these items. Ideally, make the bedroom a calm place and place the alarm clock away from the bed, forcing you to get up to turn it off, and the cell phone should be put away or turned off.
The disturbed sleep could be making you wake, sometime in semi dream state, and see things that aren't there and find yourself paralyzed. This is how many horror situations occur. I remember this happening for me when I slept beside a very strong EMF alarm clock and my eyes opened and I saw thousands of giant spiders climbing up the walls and across the ceiling.
room folks usually died in
Lastly, one of the creepiest thoughts is that in older homes, someone likely died in that bedroom. Before the 1950s, folks most often died at home, not in local hospitals. A doctor or family attended.
I'm not a fan of the concept of souls coming back to their old homestead, but the very act of a soul leaving a body should create a kind of "solar flare' of the consciousness that burns a memory or an agonizing feeling's residue in that location.
What can we do to make a bedroom feel safer? I would suggest things I often tell people who believe their home is haunted or a room in their home is troubled. Put out things with positive feelings, like an open bible, photos of loved ones, plants, religious symbols, crystals, whatever provokes strength in you. Check your EMF issues. Consider a light that is less disruptive, such as a clock with blue instead of red lights or even a star or water pattern projection light.
Consider soft music or even binaural beats/frequency/white noise sounds. A weighted blanket can give a sense of comfort and protection.
If your partner is okay with it, consider a CCTV camera in your room to monitor the night.
There are all kinds of therapies available today to help one get through traumatic events, phobias, even sleep disorders like sleep paralysis, night terrors, sleep walking, and even sleep apnea (breathing stopping for moments throughout the sleep).
To some, hypnosis is a good way to open up all kinds of hidden memories, but it also can open a can of worms. You may wonder why you have some dysfunctional and even self-defeating behaviors when you can't source any traumas in your past. Those issues are upsetting but it has to be weighed against the possibility that there is something that did cause those issues. Is amnesia a blessing or a curse?
Ultimately, it's important to note that, while the bedroom can be a quiet calming den where one finally has no distractions, it is also a place of enormous joy.
Rest. Lovemaking. Family movie watching. Recovering when sick. Reading books. Beautiful dreams. Renewing. Tucking in for comfort.
