Children and Ghosts

Children and ghosts - a combination we hear a lot about in the world of paranormal research. What do kids have? Are they more psychically sensitive? Are they more approachable by ghosts?

"My son talks to someone in the room. When I ask him who, he says `the old man who lived here.'"
"My daughter won't sleep in her room. She says there is someone standing over her bed."

There is a popular concept in the community of paranormal research that gets passed around without question that children are psychically sensitive and they lose it through social acculturation as they mature and they turn off their skills to function in society. As a psychic, I can tell you that, as much as my past relationship had me not utilizing, recognizing or wanting anything to do with my skills, they were still there, even decades after wishing them away. 

True skills do not go away by intimidation or acculturation.

So, what do kids have that we don't have? Kids have entered the portal of physical world from the spiritual, through the womb. They have entered this physical realm, shocked and jostled, in a bright light, loud noises, and overstimulation, but they are also closer to their origins. Their minds are forming to learn patterns that make them able to survive and communicate which shifts them from what they "vaguely recall" on the other side. People who have near-death experiences also develop a connection, an umbilical of sorts to the other side, like children have. That allows perception, like in my post yesterday about "Did I Bring a Ghost Home?"  Once you are "other" focused, you have a sort of portal, a tie to the other side.

Adults balk at potential contacts, like when they get goosebumps for no reason, feel like they're not alone, or hear something unusual. We explain it away. Children recognize it for what it is - part of a world that can be seen and a world that cannot be seen. When I was growing up in a haunted house from the time I was barely a toddler, the odd things that occurred there were part of nature, to me. It was how the universe works; occasionally voices sound with no one there, objects move, apparitions can be viewed.

Children are not more psychic, they are simply more fluid in their definition of reality.

As well as near-death experiencers and children who have been recently closer to the "veil," those with mental illness and those who practice meditation and/or spiritual practices that help give a universal perspective, can also be closer to recognizing spirit activity.

When we shift from our analytical daily "to-do" list in our heads and sit down to sing a hymn, say a prayer, meditation, perform yoga, study a sunset, or other perspective shifting practice, we are receptive to encounters. When we ghost hunt, we sit still trying to have an encounter with the other side. Since you were a child, when was the last time you sat still and didn't have anything to do but just "be"?

Children have no demands on their time and duties like adults. They are encouraged to make believe, speak with and listen to things that aren't physically in their vicinity. Children have a delightful combination of hope, dream, wish, prayer, imagination and creativity that allows them to not balk at the first signs of encounter.

So, to sum it up, children are not particularly more psychic, they are simply working in a more creative mind realm. And, if you consider that the majority of people who encounter the other side are either creative, spiritual or have emotional challenges, it now makes perfect sense that the mind's focus and ability to not judge, but to just let be - allows for evidence to unfold.

So, the next time Junior claims he's sharing his room with an unseen entity, be sure and not impose your adult fears and anxieties. Like any other element in our world, when you don't name it, you don't fear it. Children don't name it. They don't fear it. If a Barbie can be a top model having a conversation with Ken and it seems awfully real to them, imagine what the presence of a spirit must seem like. They engage it in a back and forth. Now, as an adult, try and take two dolls and have them talk and walk around and climb up a coffee table as if they're going to a penthouse apartment. You can't do it. You cannot suspend reality long enough to engage in the play. But, as a child you could. You could do this for hours and take it quite seriously.

When I was little, I didn't know my house was haunted. I thought ghosts were like Casper - a guy in a white sheet. I didn't have concepts or notions or reasons to fear the things my home projected. I simply marveled at them, ignored them, and upon occasion sassed back at them. And, as I got older, I didn't focus my attention on that realm any longer. I focused on boys and school dances, school grades and what I wanted to be when I grew up.

I didn't lose my ability to know the other side - I simply quit engaging it.