Stalkers: Scary Reality

Stalking is a term commonly used to refer to unwanted and obsessive attention by an individual or group to another person. Stalking behaviors are related to harassment and intimidation and may include following the victim in person and/or monitoring them. The word stalking is used, with some differing meanings, in psychology and psychiatry and also in some legal jurisdictions as a term for a criminal offense.

Common Characteristics:
Won't take no for an answer 
Has an obsessive personality 
Above average intelligence
Low self esteem
Sociopathic thinking 
Has a mean streak
Lack of embarrassment or discomfort at actions
No or few personal relationships

Reality:  I had a stalker a few years while I lived in California in the 80s. It was before they had laws about such harassment. The cops came and talked to me and basically told me they knew the guy had done the same thing before and all they knew was that he drove a van. It is sad that there are people who so few connections with human beings that they have to glom onto someone and hope to find some satisfaction in a fantasy world with that object of their obsession. They obviously missed some important steps in the interactions with others in which the person they interact with returns the attention and affection. Those broken tendrils in one's psyche--they lead to some horrifying scenarios. Just look at these few movies about stalkers and realize there are hundreds more out there about the subject that is classified as "horror."



"Cape Fear"




"Taxi Driver"


  1. Me too, sister. I feel sorry for anyone who tries it again. I can stalk too.

  2. So are you saying that I should stop stalking you?

    My stalking haiku

    Shy autumn forest
    your ghostly specter haunts you
    visiting your dreams

  3. Barry, since you are the finest gentleman, poet, and lovely human being, I wholeheartedly encourage you to stalk me, but just remember, I stalk back. I have no clue how to haiku, but let's give it a try:
    Barry tempts me
    his witticisms and charm unite
    creating my fantasy

  4. hmm i suffer from more than half of those... uh oh

  5. dopdavid--well, you know most of us, if we read the list of ADD characteristics, swear we suffer it. Just so long as you don't lurk around someone's mailbox and follow them around, I think you'll survive those traits.

  6. is true! It can cause also a big fear, especially when you're alone.


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