Empaths: Trying Not To Drown

As a psychic, I run into more "empaths" than any other kind of psychic. In fact, in my lifetime, I've only known one other psychometrist. I have been on plenty of ghost hunts with empaths and I have seen many of them let emotions overcome them so much that they flee in hysterics. As someone who has sponsored dozens of people over 20 years with anxiety disorder, phobias and panic attacks, I can tell you that if your head isn't on straight, you can give yourself so much undue emotion.

How do we get emotions? From our thoughts. They do not come up from some paranormal well inside of us, there is no Keebler elf shoveling hormones into our bodies to produce joy or angst, and there is no obvious emotion for any situation, as some people will laugh, others will cry.

We have to first have a thought to have an emotion. Empaths tend to be highly suggestible to any images or thoughts they feed themselves. If I tell you to close your eyes, imagine picking a lemon and feeling the waxy dimpled surface and then biting into it, you might produce saliva. To an empath, it isn't just the mouth watering, she might also feel juice squirt her in the eye. She has a vivid ability to imagine and also can get so caught up in it, it becomes reality.

So, an empath sitting in a torture chamber that hadn't been using in a hundred years might sense some of the heavier emotions once felt there, as I do when I read an object. But then, it is also human nature that, when we feel bad, we want to know why. We seek the reason. For the empath, this reason might include reviewing the history of the building and the things that were done there. She is feeding a wellspring of internal imagery which amplifies that feeling even more, just like a person in a battle reenactment might begin to hyperventilate. Thoughts like, "this was so horrible," "how could anyone endure this?" will bring even more emotion on top of the initial "reading" that was done.

I have connected with the thoughts of serial killers and many other such aberrations in our world. I've read objects with tragic histories, buildings with awful events, and never once have I shed a tear, become frightened, run away or wanted to stop. I have a clear logical understanding that I am observing and not being. I am taking note of events, not joining the events. This is now. That was then.

All participants are no longer suffering.

Look at it this way: If you are drowning, would you want a person who is in a safe and sturdy position on board a ship to pull you out or a fellow swimmer floundering beside you? This is the difference between empathizing and sympathizing. If you show empathy, you understand why someone feels the way they do, but you do not become what they are feeling. If you sympathize, you join them in a good cry fest.

An empath can have a very valid place in an investigation, but they will do no good at all if they let their thoughts and mental images take over and begin to believe that this event is threatening them right here and now and that they are a part of that history. An empath must remain grounded in the present. "Here I am standing in an empty jail cell with other investigators. It is 2012. No one has been harmed in this building in decades. Everything that has been is over." Like a news reporter, observe the emotions that had been in that place, describe them, focus on the task of being an investigator and not a participant. If you feel you must become the feelings that have been there, understand that for what it is, a witnessing in your body of someone else's event long since passed. That person no longer exists, is not experiencing that feeling again, and you are just channeling it, but not having a reason in the here and now to feel it.

In fact, it is best to describe for someone taking notes, just what it is you are sensing which takes it from the victim stance to the witness stance.

What is the role of an empath on a team?

If used properly, and empath might be your best communicator with the other side because they can read the emotional content of those who held that space. By picking up that stream of emotion that might have been part of the ties to that location, they can ask the right questions, be a compassionate and caring parent-like person to turn to. However, the moment the empath takes on that emotion, they are likely to scare anything away simply because an angry person does not want to confide in another angry person, a sad person does not go to another sad person for solace. It is best to approach a spirit energy with empathy and comfort. If someone was mad there, take the stance of letting them know they had reason to be mad.

That is true empathy--letting someone have their own emotion while validating its right to be.

Understanding the emotion and being an ideal calm communication conduit can make an empath an irreplaceable paranormal investigator. Every team should have one, but like any other skilled member, they need to learn to use the tool properly to take the investigations to a new level.



    from an Empath.

    Love, KVS

  2. First of all that picture makes me want to say, "I'll never let go". Second of all, I don't think I am an Empath. I am rather cool and calm during a ghost hunt. I enjoyed reading about Empaths and what they are all about.

  3. As an Empath, I have to agree, to take part in paranormal work, you have to be grounded and in control of your emotions and feelings. I'm a Universal Empath and it took a wee while to get control and used to grounding, but it can be done. Once you have got the hang of it, it can be great fun doing paranormal work.


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