We have lives with wins and losses. How, though, do we pull ourselves back after we lose at a task and get moving on to the next one? Here it is in a nutshell:
Do not let once incident define your life.
That time you stuttered during your oral report in fifth grade? That time you missed the important basket in the basketball playoff? That time you slept with someone you didn't even really like? That time you yelled at your kid when you were tired and impatient?
Your life got back up each time and kept going on with wins and losses again and again. No one task is the defining moment in your life. You find the next thing and the next thing and the next thing. Even those who achieve success, they never stop. They begin new companies, make another movie, cut another album.
No one thing defines your success or your failure; they all just show a life in dynamic movement—the ideal motion.
As well, no one loss is not insurmountable. I do recall swearing that I would never be happy again, never smile again, never feel loved after my father died when I was a teen. The fact was, life creeps back in and the happiest moments I've had and the most love were afterwards. Another truth about life:
You cannot have the same day twice no matter how you try!
Life always comes in and like the ebb and flow of an ocean tide, it wears down on the rock of your life until it has smooth edges. You have up days, you have down days, you have periods of time with drama, periods of time with boredom. Life is a fickle thing but the one thing to always know is:
The next moment is an opportunity.
I love that about life! Every time I had the worst day of my life, I later had the best. Every time I thought I'd never get over something, I forgot all about it. Time and life get in the way and change it up for you, whether you take control or not. Life is just one waiting opportunity after another.
You don't believe it? Take a piece of graph paper. Put the years of your life along the bottom. Along the side put levels for how crappy something was. The lower the block, the crappier the event; the higher the block the happier the event. Now, put dots for those losses, those horrible events, those things you'll never forget and then put in the times you won an award, you went on a killer vacation, you had a baby, you got a raise. Looks like a crazy spiky graph, huh? Yeah, life is like that. Today, spike low on the chart; tomorrow spike off the chart.
You can't smooth out the surf, but you can learn to ride the waves.