Good men are easy to find: Good available men are hard to find.
Examples:
Married men who would love to have me as a girlfriend or a long-distance online wife.
Men who live in other states and have no intention of coming to my state.
Men who are caretaking elderly parents.
Men who refuse to fall in love again.
Men who have work, activities and child-rearing duties and no free time.
It's quite anguishing to meet a man who are absolutely everything I could want, only to discover he is married and would like me to be a side dish.
It's heartbreaking and humiliating to fall in love with a man who is not in love with me.
It's tragic to have a man fall in love with me whom I do not share the feelings, even though he is a perfectly wonderful man.
There are a lot of broken men out there, who have had tragic pasts, lots of drama, several stabs at being in love and being crushed. I have yet to be in love and be loved back. I would likely be a man's fourth, fifth, eighth love. It's daunting to come after such heartbreak. Some people truly believe love is a commodity. You give love, someone takes love, and crushes it. Love is gone.
Not for me. For me, love is wellspring. Just like a blood supply, I renew the love I have to give. No one can take away something that is continually produced. With that in mind, I continue on my trek to find a man who is both good and available.