We spend a lot of time in ghost hunting concerning ourselves with messages from the dead, but what about messages to the dead?
Pagans have a delightful attitude about communicating with the dead that takes place on Samhain in many different forms from a feast for the dead with their favorite foods prepared and mementos laid out and some even do spiral dances.
Similarly, Dia de los Muertos (Day of the Dead) is a Latin American celebration in which altars are designed and favorite foods and drinks are laid out on November 2nd and prayers are made for the dead.
Most cultures around the world have ways to venerate the dead in remembrance and ceremony.
The spiritualist movement of the turn-of-the-century had people sending messages to the dead in seances through psychic mediums who supposedly speak to the other side.
It is human nature to want to say that which was not said while alive. I live by the very strong doctrine to tell people how I feel about them every day of my life and show them through my acts how important they are. No one should ever spend a day on this earth wondering if they are cherished--that concept breaks my heart. Anyone who knows me, knows I live each day as if it's the last--lots of laughter, hugs, and encouragement and praise. Someone's last impression of me should be that they smiled and felt cared for, no doubts about their importance. But, not everyone has lost over 2 dozen people in their lives, so perhaps that perspective is in retrospect for the majority. For those with unresolved issues with the dead, trying to get that last important message to them can be all-consuming.
How do we know if our messages to the dead have been passed in an effective manner and are received? Well, we can’t know. Here is something I know, however: When I go to a cemetery where someone has recently visited and spoken or prayed to the dead, activity shows up. To me, that is telling.
If you’ve lost a loved one and call upon him or her, you more than likely don’t hear or see him or her or even feel he or she is there. But, if you want to know if they are with you, you must eliminate all sensory distractions. Eyes closed, ears covered with headphones, sitting up comfortably in a chair, hands on your thighs, take some deep breaths and speak one single question to your loved one. Call his or her name, ask the question. Repeat it again. Now, picture that person as clearly as you can in your mind. If nothing happens, try it again and again until you feel the answer come to you. You will know what he or she would say to you, you will hear how he or she would say it. Just trust what you “know” deep inside. Sometimes, this will be quite surprising that you even hear a voice.
When my sister died suddenly in 2005, I was sitting in bed reading and I sighed and took a deep breath and sadly said, “Tina, if you still exist in any way, please let me know. You know I hunt ghosts. You know I want answers. Please, just give me this one last gift.” From the corner of my eye, I watched the lampshade move. I turned my head and watched the lampshade beside me sway all the way as far as it could and then back again. I snapped my book closed, sat up, hand trembling and touched the lampshade. It was affixed very tightly to the light bulb by a clip and to move it, I had to shove it up and down again. It could not swing as it was held to the bulb. This was not a fluid or easy movement in the least. As a person who is a skeptic first, I was very impressed. I was even more impressed when I realized that it was the lamp my sister and I both wanted when my mother passed on. She had kidded me that she would concede on that one if she could have a rug that I wanted. Both items were sentimental to us and it was hilarious that she chose this way to let me know.
You may not always get results when making messages to the dead, but you can always know that you feel better having sent that message into the universe and all the love and intent that goes with it.
That alone can attract…